What you actually want.

In my last post I talked about setting goals, and using day dreams to expand your horizon. How by setting big goals, we expand our thinking beyond where it is at the moment, and in turn that changes how we view this moment.

We set big goals. But by their very nature they are unattainable without small goals. We set top down goals then bottom up goals and somewhere in the middle, they meet.

I left out one important thing in all this. How do we define what we actually want? This has been one of the hardest things for me to figure out, and I’m guessing you are similar.

Amazingly this is a difficult thing to do by its very nature. Because we see the results of desires not the desires themselves.

Ferrai and Model

Well what we actually want is not a thing, but a way of being. We see things like Ferrari’s with smiling models, and we can connect with the fun of driving one of them. We say that’s what I want!  But that is not what you want, that represents what you actually want.

Ask yourself if I had boat loads of money and was able to get every THING, what would I actually want then? cars boats and houses become boring after a while.

Would you want Success? If you go back to the Ferrari and the model, I said that it wasn’t what they were that you wanted, it was what they represented, is actually what you wanted, and yes that is success, but what is success? Success is always, at the core of it, happiness. Soooooooo after you had everything. What would actually make you happy? Consistently day by day?

I will simplify things for you. We only ever want one thing, but we want it in millions of ways. We want to add value to the world. We want to make a difference, we want to contribute to either people or the planet. Be of benefit in some way. Now how you do that is up to you. But you can do that NOW, you don’t need millions, or maybe you will make millions as a by-product of helping people?

All businesses make peoples lives better, in some way. All jobs make businesses work better, to serve people in some way.

How can you add value to the world? What do you do now that is fun for you?e392c307d038953654b7b88a6110669b

One other thing is that we add that value (service) by being ourselves to the best of our abilities. Imagine if you were happy all the time, how would that affect your friends and family? Would it make them happier? Or at least you more tolerable. Ha ha.

Your purpose is to be the best you, you can be, because that literally changes the world, one person at a time.

What you actually want, is who you want to be, and that starts here and now.

I hope you enjoyed this post and your head isn’t too fried. But that is part of learning.  Constantly growing and stretching.

I’d love to read what you think about this post.

Have an awesome day.

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