This week as things changed for me. I got a bit lost and the momentum went. The enthusiasm evaporated, and frustration set in.
How many times have you sat at your desk with your head in your hands trying to figure out your next step? Maybe a big problem has arisen and you’re unsure what to do. You get this churn in your stomach and chest and you feel stuck blank and lost. I’m sure if you’re anything like me it has happened to many times.
What now? You’re just caught in a cycle. I don’t know what to do, and I’ve no way of digging myself out of this.
I hope you’re feeling the feelings now (I am) because I’ve been very manipulative in my wording. I want you to just realize that if I can make you feel them just by writing about them what are they really.
More and more I’m becoming grateful for these hardships, because they are like lifting weights the more you do the easier it gets. I’ve noticed a marked increase, in how quickly I can adjust my attitude now, in comparison to years ago. I notice quicker what is going on in me, and I have a number of things I can do to get those feelings moving again.
This situation is challenging to get out of because the feeling of stuckedness actually keeps your brain stressed and unable to think about what you’d actually want to do. It inhibits the imagination because you just want to get rid of the feeling, not day dream about your future and enjoyment.
If I can make you feel stuck and frustrated just by using a few words what is causing that feeling?
Essentially it’s your thoughts, your association with what I’m talking about, and you using past experiences to make that real now.
What would happen if you decided to use the exact same mechanism against its self? What would happen if you started using words that empowered you, instead of saying “stuck” you said “I’ve to get something moving in me, to get a different emotion”, a more resourceful emotion?
What happened for me is I got suck. I felt disconnected from my goals and I knew it. But I focused on the feeling (stuckedness) and got more frustrated. As soon as I used the correct language I started to feel great again. I started to say “I want to connect with my goals” “what can I do, to do that”? So I listened to really fast music and went for a walk thinking about my next step. Rather than saying what do I want? This is too big, and vague, I asked what do I want next in my life. It’s amazing how just those few extra words changed everything for me. They gave me greater clarity.
The next thing in my life is a new apartment in a very prestigious apartment block in the city center. I am excited, because I will literally be moving up in the world. Even if it’s only a few flights of stairs. Ha ha.
Let me know what you think, how this effected you, and what you do, to get you going again.