Let me ask you a question? What is freedom? We all want it, but what is it? Some people would say money is freedom, but what use is that when you work sixty or seventy hours a week? What use is that when you are sick?
What I’ve come to realize, is that freedom is options, but also the ability to choose. We all have options, but most people doubt themselves so much, that they can not make up their mind, or simply do not believe that they can do anything, so they can not see the options that are in front of them. Both these scenarios perfectly described me.
It has ta ken me a decade of solid work to eliminate the vast majority of these doubts. Because it took decades to put them there in the first place.
We live in a world where there is endless options, there are so many options that it is baffling. How can we build our ability to choose?
We decide, we decide to take full responsibility for our mind, and as a result everything else in our life.
When you have so many options, they all become a blur. It is impossible to make up your mind. So eventually you’re just going to have to say fuck it, and make a decision.
What is the opposite of doubting yourself? Its trust! self-trust, self-trust comes before self-belief. You have to take a leap of faith and say I am just going to do something and see what happens. Then figure out the rest. That is what taking responsibility looks like. Its saying one way or another I’m going to move forward. If I do some thing and it doesn’t work, then I’ll just try something else.
This is taking charge of your life it is literally figuring it out as you go along. School teaches us that we should know stuff beforehand, but it will never ever be that way. We always just figure it out as we go along.
Seeing this in every situation in my life has taken me years to unravel, but bit by bit day by day, I got there and I’m still learning this. It is just practice. but the more you practice the more you believe. The more you believe in yourself.
Let’s make this clear. The only way you will ever believe in yourself is if you take chances. You take a stand, say I am in charge, I am responsible for my life and my happiness.
But let’s make this as simple as possible. This all sound like a huge thing! But it’s not set yourself up to win. Today just do something different and see what happens. Pick one small thing and do it. By doing that one small thing you take charge in that moment and as a result you can see how you can take charge in every moment.
Then just practice.
Have an awesome time.