Your allowed have the best

School, parents, work, and money, all tell you can’t! Literally everything in the first 20 years of your life is set up to make you think you can’t, and then it all changes. Then the world starts to ask you, what do you want? What do you want to do with your life, with college, with your career?

You have been programmed from a very young age to believe in limitations, but those limitations are bulshit.a-different-perspective

What we are going to do in this course is evaporate those limitations, bit by bit each week, so that we can start to see ourselves for what we really are. We are creators of ourselves, our destiny and the world around us.

To do that we have to want things we have to have desires. Wants and desires have a bad reputation in our society, yet everything is based on them. Someone wanted to build the Eiffel Tower, now millions of people every year, flock to it, for the wonderment of it. Why? Just because they desire to!

I Love MeThis is something I have found shocking, and its shocking because I had to learn this myself. I am allowed to want things, I’m allowed to have things. Things like feeling good about myself, and as a result having nice things in my life.

I could always see that other people could have nice things, they deserved it but I didn’t.

How about you? How does this make you feel? Do you deserve nice things?

These things are different for everyone, but you are entitled to them.

It is really simple we all want the best for our lives. But we have to ask ourselves the question, what is the best for me? We have to break the conditioning that we have seen growing up, what our parents and society think is best for us. We have to start thinking for ourselves.

excitedI want the very best of everything I want to experience everything that life has to offer, I feel you do too. but what that is for you, is very different for me. At this time, I don’t want children, where as someone else would think that is the most insane thing ever. They would not be able to comprehend that, but what is best for them, is not best for me, at this moment, and that may change.

So what do you want for your life? Because your allowed have whatever you want!

I want an Epic Life I want to have fun every day,
and make a difference to the world.

Enthusiasm is the key part 2

We left yesterday’s post with one burning question, what makes you enthusiastic?

happy-sadQuestions are sooooo important. If I ask you, what don’t you like? you will think of something, you don’t like, and tell me. What would happen if i asked what do you like? So our questions actually make us feel good, or bad?

Our questions actually are a huge part of our awareness. Our ability to ask questions, is a huge part of our ability to be happy, and evaluate the world around us.

a-different-perspectiveBasically not taking things for granted, testing them, and then evaluating them, from a different perspective.

In a really simple, ask yourself this. What is a chair really? See how this question now expands our awareness to beyond what we thought?

Well the answer is…… wood or what ever its made out of, and then a smart person will say, atoms or energy. So its not really a chair? Hmmmm. What makes it different, to a table?

That question makes you think, so what is everything?

the_mind_is_everything_what_you_think_you_become_1024x1024What a chair really is, is a story, a chair is “something to sit on”. Think of it this way. If a chair was in an arts student’s house, and it was beside their bed, a lamp was on it and a book. We may think because of the context, that they are using it as a night table? So the story has changed, but the shape is the same, its really the context that has changed, that dictates the use, but, that is just a story.

What happens if they just take the stuff off, and it instantly becomes a chair, the story changes, but the thing is still the same.

question-everythingThis is awesome, so what happens then, if we start looking at these things, like what they really are, which is an infinite bunch of possibilities. So someone could take that wooden chair, and carve the most amazing things into it, and it becomes an art piece, or what ever we want to imagine.

Now that we are saying this, what is a chair really? Actually its unknowable. The most accurate thing I can come up with, is an infinite bunch of possibilities, which is literally the most vague thing ever.

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Do you feel how powerful questions are? They have just dissolved all of reality for us. our story of a chair is not true, it is made up, what would a baby call it? Well they wouldn’t be sitting on it, they would be using it to hold on to, while they figure out how to walk. So is it a Zimmer frame to that baby ha-ha.

If a chair can be a an infinite bunch of possibilities, what does that mean for you?

Who are you really. Are you your story, like the chair “is something to sit on”. Are you truly your story? Your self image? Or are you like the chair,unlimited_sm2 an infinite bunch of possibilities?

The only thing that is holding you back, is how effective your questions are? if you ask a different question you will get a different result.

How do you feel about yourself now? What would happen, if you asked the question? what are all the good things that have happened, to me, in my life?

Questions change everything! Iim-actually-pretty-smart failed school, and I thought I was stupid until I asked one simple question. Have I done at least one smart thing in my life? and of course the answer was yes! I asked another, will i do other smart things? and of course the answer was yes, again. So I asked one final question, if I have done smart things in the past, and I will in the future, was my old self image true? and of course it wasn’t.
What questions do you ask yourself, and how are they making you enthusiastic? because if they are not, they are not, effective questions.

what-questonsHow can you start asking more effective questions? How can you start making yourself feel, more enthusiastic.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Enthusiasm is the key part 1

This is the first of a number of posts, because enthusiasm is not talked about enough.enthusiasm-is-the-key-to-successs

Enthusiasm is the key. If you are not enthusiastic, life is a drag, you are not living you are existing.

When you are enthusiastic, you are expecting good things, to happen.

When you are in fear, you are expecting bad things to happen.

Both are just you using your mind, to imagine a future. That is your choice!!!

Senthusiasm-is-the-mother-of-efforto over the next few days leading up to my talk on this, we will explore what enthusiasm is.

Today is all about happiness, and what that actually is? So many people are trapped by this word. They want to be happy, but what are they actually saying in that statement? Well if they want to be happy, they are saying I’m not happy now, happiness is off in the distance.

Over and ovefuck-this-bulshit-i-m-outr people are asking for happiness, and actually stating over and over, that they are not happy. This literally controls your focus, and you are stamping into your unconscious, that you are unhappy now, and happiness is far away.

To most people with this focus, they are problem orientated. They think that happiness is the lack of problems. But what happens when you get rid of all your problems? Are you happy or just existing? Will you be at peace, or will you be bored?

For most people at this point, they are starting to ask, what actually makes me happy? What is it? What creates happiness?

joyFirst of all its our perspective on life, do you choose to look at your problems, or do you focus on creating opportunities? When we focus on problems we get dis-empowered. When we focus on opportunities, we get empowered. We go from I can’t, to I can. would you feel more happy if you felt more empowered? Its really simple, our perspective creates happiness.

But if I was to ask you, what in your life makes you happy? Chances are you like me wouldn’t particularly know. It is very vague and we are not in that state, to connect with those thoughts. It is very hard to imagine happiness, when we are down.

excitedHappiness is too vague. What happens, when we say, what was the last thing you were enthusiastic, or excited about? Well enthusiasm crops up, when we are getting new things, or trying new things. We may be getting a new car, house, baby, course, or relationship. For some reason we can think more effectively, with this emotion. We can remember past times, and as a result imagine future events.

So what makes you enthusiastic?

Come join us, at our weekly talk, with the epic life group.

 

Enthusiasm Is The Key

EEnthusiasm is the mother of effortnthusiasm is the key to life, not happiness, joy or even love. I am being very precise with my words. Love is what is, happiness is the feeling, and so Is joy. But enthusiasm is the key to life, life is movement, growth and contribution. Enthusiasm is Love in motion, or action. Enthusiasm, is the flow of life, the vibration you emit, and as you know is infectious?

Think about how enthusiastic you where as a child for Christmas. The surprises that where coming to you. How enthusiastic are you about life now? Surprises happen all the time, but we have dulled down our lives so much, that the only surprises we get are bills, Mu ha ha.

Lets drop that shit. Lets start expecting good things to happen.The-real-secret-of-success__quotes-by-Walter-Chrysler-27

Think about if you were getting a new car, how excited you are looking at all the different models. You create that.

Think about when you meet someone you fancy, thinking about what may come of the interaction. You create that feeling.

Can you feel in these two examples of how your thought energy is looking forward to what may happen?

How often do you use that thought energy, to look forward to what bad may happen?

In both cases you will never know what will happen, it will always bthe-key-to-success-is-not-through-achievement-but-through-enthusiasm-quote-1e a surprise, and you’re the one who creates the expectations. !!!!

How often do you kill your enthusiasm, with a misuse of your imagination?

We either dis-empower ourselves, or empower ourselves, with our imagination / thoughts.

We use questions to create our future. What can go wrong with this, or what could we do that would be awesome, which question would bring you more happiness, / enthusiasm?

What would happen if you started asking how much fun, could I have, in work today? Who could I have fun with? What could I do that would be interesting. instead of the usual drone of misery?

enthusiasm is the key to successsNow for the deep psychology stuff. What do you really want in life. We actually want to feel terrific, awesome, and full of enthusiasm, for every day. How often do you ask yourself this question? Am I happy doing what I’m doing? If not ask a more effective question? What would fill me full of enthusiasm every day? And we can ask an even more effective question, what ways can I do what fills me full of enthusiasm, and make loads of money.

This is not materialistic. What do they say about enthusiasm? “it’s infectious” so it is your responsibility to be full of enthusiasm, because you will literally be making the world, around you, a happier place? And having money just allows you to amplify that.

Its simple you want an Epic Life and what ever that is is up to you but you create it by the use of your imagination and to direct that you ask yourself effective questions.  winston churchill

So what fills you full of enthusiasm? and if you don’t know, then ask a more effective question.

Have an awesome day.

 

Re-evaluating my goals.

My plan to speak at pendulum summit got derailed, for the past few months.

I set an audacious goal, and didn’t really know what I was getting myself in for.

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Just like all goals, plan A didn’t work also plan b, c,d, and e. But now finally after trailing and fail-learning and a bit of de-motivation, I am getting the picture back of what I wanted 9 months ago.

I can see myself speaking on stage and the energy in the place being off the charts. I know the type of energy I want, because I’ve was a DJ, and I know when a place is electric. 3 or 4 thousand people, with a real drive, to be the best that they can be. Just even saying this pumps me up.

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I got derailed like every one, my goal was going to take a lot more effort than I thought. But that is the mark of a real goal. Something that will grow you. I had all the pieces but had no idea how long and how to put them together.

My naive assumption at the start of the year was, I’d put out a bunch of videos and get traction, and that was it. Haha. So funny now. Totally delusional. But again that is the mark of a true goal.

So, I’ve melted my own head over, and over, just like every entrepreneur, and it didn’t seem as much fun, as it originally did. It started feeling like it was going to be a lot of hard work.

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My plan originally was to do a bit of online marketing, and get a job with Pendulum Summit doing marketing, network with all the top people, and develop an opportunity that way.

What has come about, is I’ve had to start a media company, to build my own brand, which still doesn’t exist. So I’ve had to do a lot of study, and growing, than originally planned.

I started a meet up group,(The Epic Life Group) because I needed experience as an actual speaker. Yea that’s how delusional, this goal was. I fucking love it. Totally nuts.

Because I got disillusioned by the scale of things, my energy started to go, and I realized, I had a lot less time, than I originally thought. I was aiming to have all my stuff together at the end of the year, and I’d get a place to speak. But thanks to DJ and Journalist, Mark Kavanagh, I realized I had a lot less time. I actually had to get my shit together months in advance, because that is when they would finalize the lineup. Yea as I said I was delusional. Haha

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So through setting up the Meet-up group, that became much more interesting, and of much more value, than speaking at pendulum summit. I was getting in a small way, what I was aiming for in speaking at Pendulum.

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I said to myself, sure if I just build this group to thousands of people, I wont need pendulum.

So I carried on with that vision for a few months and had to think about growing the group, so I started reading lots of books, and marketing stuff, primarily @garyvee and today I realized, that I was struggling with my marketing message.

I realized that I had no direction, for what I was doing, I lost my north star. My vision had evaporated.

I was reading this stuff to grow the group, but to what end. It was vague and mushy.

Lost vision

Over the past few months, I had felt this vagueness, but I had no idea what it was. I went from being proactive, to just reading stuff that seemed like being productive, but it wasn’t leading anywhere.

I am reminded again, and again, that we have to have a north star, a destination, a goal because, that puts what we are doing, now, in context, and gives what we are doing, now, purpose.

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I was proactively lost.

I can even see it in the epic life group, I had lost that drive to grow, by being vague, and the group, I feel,could feel that too. Every bit of content I was putting out was great, but it lacked that bit of drive, and conviction, that direction. What we are all doing this for. We want epic lives, that is why, we are here, and that energy, was faltering.

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I understand on a whole new level, the purpose of goals, so much more now. Goals are not to be attained, but they are there as tools to help you grow.

The goal itself is irrelevant, the journey is the most important thing. It is who you become as a result of your journey, that is most important. But! the goal gives you direction.

This goal has gone from being something fun, to something much more serious, it is now become a mark of my growth, as a man, a person, as a person who can make a difference, to his own life, and as a result the people around him.

The goal has gone from being a selfish one, to one that I hope will empower others.

Get over myself

I know now, that I am mad late, on speaking at pendulum, but miracles happen every day.

I am re-energized, and clear again on what I want to do, and why. We all go through these processes. If you are to take one thing away from this, is just keep going, keep moving forward, and things will become clear eventually.

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If  I had have stopped, I would not have a second chance now, and I gave myself that second chance.

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My energy and clarity is back.

I see myself in the Dublin Exhibition Center speaking to 3 thousand people, and bringing them on a journey that empowers the fuck out of them. I see the place going nuts, for themselves, because they will see how far, they have come, through my story.

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If I can be so delusional, and keep going, so can anyone. I can tell you now, I am 100% a better person for all the effort I have put in. Win, loose, or draw I have grown, and that is the real purpose of goals.

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I can not go back to who I was, and one way or another, I am going to have better things because of this.

I look forward to meeting you on our Epic Journey’s

 

The most important thing, you could ever do!

Setting your mentality for the day.

Imagine waking up, and the first thing you notice, is how tired you still feel. Like that 8 hours of sleep, has just been a waste of time. You have just fucked up your sleep and you already feel like a looser.

In bed tired.

I have done this way too much. Starting off my days in completely the most dis-empowering way possible.

I’m sure you have heard, what I am about to say already, and it’s probably made sense to you.

What I want to ask you, is why haven’t you done it? I want you to ask yourself, why you haven’t done it?

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I don’t feel like it, it’s too hard when I’m tired, I don’t think of it. whatever your complaints are I’ve used them. I have gotten into looser mode first thing.

What it boiled down to for me is, I didn’t put me, as high enough priority in my life. I was a whinger and a moaner.

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I was going with the flow, wake up, and see what happens. No direction.

I knew all the right stuff, but wasn’t doing it, because, I just didn’t feel like it.

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I’d try it for a bit, and then let just let old ways win out.

Now, I want you to imagine, what it would be like, to feel awesome every day, grateful every day, and excited to see what happens?

All good things are the opposite side of effort. Even in the smallest way. You have to get up off your bum, to get an ice-cream from the fridge.

This is so important I’ll say it twice, “all good things are the opposite side of effort”.

So how can you expect to have a good day, if you don’t put any effort into it?

Hope is the most destructive thing, on this planet!

Hope gets you nothing! Effort gets you something!

What would happen if you put energy into your day? If you said, thank you, for a bed to lye, thank you, for the house that keeps me out of the wind. Be grateful for what ever you want.

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Then you start creating how you want your day to go. I am going to meet this person and have an awesome time no matter what. We are going to have fun. I’m going to enjoy the drive to work today. What ever you want, you can choose how you want to feel about it.

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Imagine taking charge of yourself and your day!! How awesome would that be? I can I willImagine putting effort into how much fun your life is going to be, just because you decided to?

Take 1 minute now and do this. Say with a smile on your face, feel silly and put real energy into it. I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, I feel fantastic, the rest of today is going to be awesome! just pay attention to how you feel, now?
Drive that energy now, this is literally the most important thing, you could do for your, whole life,    Feel_Awesome-606x230 right now. Take full charge, and have an awesome day! Choose to feel better, choose to have fun, choose to feel awesome, now! you are in charge!

It’s your choice!

Loosing my mind with Fear

FearIf you imagine a dark alley what do you think of. Happiness or fear?

I’m guessing you thought of danger why is that? I’m sure in reality 99% of people walk through dark alleys and lane-ways without any incident what so ever. So why do we think of danger, when we say dark alley?

batman_alleyWas it because Batman’s parents were killed there? Is it because the caped crusader prowls them now haha.

Have you ever been actually mugged down a dark alley?

So what is it that has created this mentality about dark alleys being dangerous? That something MAY happen not will?

Its really interesting isn’t it?

familiarity-breeds-contempt-quote-1We can blame the media, but in reality its actually just a story, that movies and the media have perpetuated over the years.

So if it is just a story why do we feel it’s real?

If we walk down the same alley every day, does the feeling change, because your more familiar with it? Why is that? Are you more or less safe than someone who has never walked down that alley?

FEARSo what is fear really? Why do you fear when your just imagining stuff? Is fear real then?

I will be expanding on this over the coming day’s and at our weekly talk in the epic life group.

What limits us (fears), and how to focus on what benefits us.

Tuesday, Jul 12, 2016, 7:00 PM

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Taylor’s Lane Dublin 8, IE

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Self support the missing ingredient.

Constructive-Criticism Criticism is the most destructive thing that has ever been on this planet, and most of all from our parents. It causes a horrible chain reaction that can last for years, decades and multiple life times. We get criticized, this causes a feeling of not being good enough, then we want to feel better, we then look for approval. Our self-image has been damaged, we are not good enough anymore. Up until this time we were happy with everything we did. Then we learned to evaluate ourselves in a way that will diminish us, maybe for the rest of our lives.Self-Criticism

This has taken me hundreds of courses, a small fortune and thousands of hours of meditation and self evaluation. All roads lead to this, and this is the cause of all of our problems. Be it abuse or just criticism we are searching for something externally to fill this void in us. our low self esteem.

We have the feeling of not being good enough, we try to avoid that feeling, cover it up, or run away from it, it is constant no matter who we see or where we go, it is always with us. Because it happened so long ago, we can barely see, that it is this feeling that is causing soo much trouble in our lives. We are at its mercy.

We try to over achieve to counter act that feeling, maybe if I’m the best, richest or most popular maybe I can finally get rid of it. Maybe I’ll eventually be good enough maybe eventually I will be lovable? but we still manage to find that one thing that was not perfect, and no matter what achievements we have, they will never be good enough. We will never be good enough.

I can see how all addictions stem from avoiding this feeling, that will never cease or go away. I can see why guys and girls end up with the wrong people, hopelessly entangled in a hope to fill this void.

We are a global leader in developing innovative software, websites and marketing solutions for businesses. (1)What I learned about myself is that I was looking to fill this void, even after all the work I had put in. Deep down I was looking for support and approval from my parents. I didn’t get it as a child they had the best of intentions, but delivered it the way they were taught.

I’ve had a drive to be a better person, but it was coming from the wrong place. It was coming from a place of pain not joy.

I realized that this has had such huge impact on my life. Probably the most influential thing in my life.

I have heard so much about learning to love yourself. But what is that? Its vague at best and non-sense to most people. The vast majority of people do not know what love is and I certainly didn’t, to be honest I’m still not sure.

However, I do know what support is, I do know what being nice is, and I do know what seeing the best in others is. I know because I’ve been doing this for years for everyone else but myself.

Maybe I was subconsciously hoping that they would do it for me. But this could never happen my defenses where on such high alert, that even if they did give me a complement, I couldn’t hear or feel it. I had to solve this problem myself.

I had to see it / feel it.Self Support

What changed and over a few days is I started noticing how I had a lot of resistance to letting people know what I was up to, my latest plans, or just life in general, I wouldn’t share who I was, for fear of criticism, fear of being hurt. If no one knows how can they hurt me?

What I learned was I have to support myself, I have to be the one who pats myself on the back, and how I do that is by facing my feelings. Instead of running away I will listen to them and hear what they have to say. Ultimately they are there for a reason, and that reason is always for my highest good. They want me to stay safe, be happy ultimately they are looking out for me. They do not want me to feel pain. I don’t want me to feel pain.

freedom-is-lta-hrefquothttpearnscliffecoukhowwecanhelpreplicabagsukphpquotgtreplica-designer-handbag-13921121268n4kgWhat happened over the coming days, I paid attention to what is going on inside me, and finally listened to what my emotions where saying by listening I was able to turn around that approval mechanism, from being externally driven, to being internally driven. Essentially supporting myself.

I’ve tried this a number of times before by writing down what did over the course of a day but it was always avoiding the feeling rather than sitting with it and learning from it. I was trying to over ride it instead of listening to it.

I now have to create a new dialogue with myself feel my emotions, listen and build myself in the right way. Listening and feeling what is going on inside you is the quickest and easiest way of moving forward in life.

fresh-airYou have an opportunity right now to take a huge step forward in life. Where have you been looking for approval where have you been looking for support and at the same time ignoring yourself looking for something that you will never get externally? You have an opportunity to fill yourself with approval, support, and ultimately love yourself more.

Connecting To Your Heart.

Over the past 6 months while I’ve been on this trip to speaking at Pendulum Summit I’ve been hit with a multitude of issues and whilst all of them have been a pain, they are good. They have focused me.

heart-462873The biggest thing I’ve learned (again) is that you have to do what you love. What I had to learn was how to get into my heart, actually connect with myself. Due to partying and the usual growing up traumas I cut myself off from my emotions. I was happy in my numb-ness, but this caused a huge problem I couldn’t connect with what I wanted. From the outside I was enthusiastic and trying new things, but each thing had no meaning, they were just interesting. When I decided to become a DJ, when I was 20 ish at a Fatboy slim concert, that was a huge emotional confirmation I WANT THIS nothing before, or since has had that effect on me. Everything was just so so. But DJing was a different story, I could be free.

Now after doing some serious soul searching and energetic clearing, I’ve been able to connect more and more with my heart, the mad thing is that connecting with your heart is so much harder, and easier than you could imagine.

heartbeat-163709If I look back at my life, well the last 16 years at least I kinda have been connected, but the context was all wrong. The only things that have interested me is mad things, like jumping out of planes, DJing to mad crowds, and just trying new things in general. I did not want a specific thing, “my heart’s desire”.

I always thought that my heart desire would be something like ending poverty. or feeding the homeless. But in reality what makes me excited, is strange, different, quirky, and mad things. new, new, different. I always thought that, that was just me, who I was, but that wasn’t what my heart’s desire was.

eyes-421781My heart’s desire is simply just “I like mad things” different, new, change.

I’ve come to realize that because my heart’s desire was so close, I could not see it. It is literally how I operated. It was literally what made me excited, enthusiastic, and curious. But what did I want to do with that. What could I do with that?

People are passionate about making money, they are passionate about blogging, making videos, entrepreneurship / business or some other thing. I was interested in these things, but my heart just wasn’t into it, so I just kept running out of steam, after the initial curiosity wore off.

So what does all this mean now? Well its changed things around for me. I don’t want things, I want experiences, that fill me full of enthusiasm, excitement, and feed my curiosity.fitness-540263

Understanding the feelings I wanted, helped me connect with what I wanted to do, to get them.

Our hearts desire is a feeling not a thing. This was a revelation to me. I wanted fun, as much fun as possible.

This enabled me to think about this whole thing another way. It enabled me to ask a better question!

landscape-640617I asked what will be the best way for me to get the most experiences, while having the most fun, and earning plenty of money. I came back around to blogging, but this time its blogging with a purpose, I want to have an epic life. I want to do it all. And I suspect you do too. But an awesome life for me, and for you are two different things. You may see an awesome life as having your own house and I see traveling as a much higher priority. But either way the process we go through will be the same.

I’ve come full circle on my goal for this year. I’m six months in, and I haven’t blogged in a month, because I got derailed. I got derailed because of one thing. I wasn’t connected to my heart, I did not have that, I ran out of steam, I could not see why I was doing this anymore. Because I wasn’t’ fully clear on what I wanted in the first place.

I want to do mad things and show the world that everything is possible. To do that, I want to speak at the premier speaking event in the whole country. Why because its mad and I feel it will have a positive impact on the people around me. Why because I’m nobody, and if a nobody can do this, well then pretty much anything is possible, if your heart is in it.glow-1177383

So let’s do some mad stuff, lets have lots of fun, and see what is possible. I’m re-energised and I hope you are too.

My Chronic Fatigue Story

Chronic-FatigueOver the past 10 years I’ve struggled with chronic fatigue and Fibromyalgia I have
tried every treatment and therapy known to man, but no success. That’s I because I was looking in the wrong place for the solution to my issue.

This crept up on me gradually, bit by bit, I had to go back to bed, more and more each day. First I went to the doctor, and that was of no use. Then I went to Nutritionists, Dietitians, Naturopaths, Ayurveda, you name it i did it. I started doing course after course, and I kept getting worse and worse. At the height of it I could barely work, I was completely dependent, on my parents, to survive. I was only functional for a few hours a day.

bernarr-macfadden-fighting-disease-with-vitalityI have noticed a pattern with clients. We are very alike, different races, creeds and body types, but we have one key trait that shines through it all. We all have ambition, but unfortunately we are hindered by our energy levels. We get frustrated, stressed, and this just compounds the whole matter. We are driven, but that drive is actually what Is causing the problem.

As I have worked through my own stuff I’ve gone to 100’s of experts in lots of different fields searching for the solution. I was always looking externally to myself what chemical what imbalance what cure can I get for this.

fibromyalgia-1What I have found is that Chronic Fatigue is the result, but not the cause. It is the result of a whole chain of things. If your look at the result, not the cause you will never find a solution, because your looking completely in the wrong place.

Let me explain this in a slightly abstract way. Imagine one million years ago when we were walking around the jungle and a big animal jumps out to attack us, we go sprinting as fast as we can, this is the fight or flight response, or stress. Our bodies are really smart and because we need all our energy and physical resources to go to our muscles, our body shuts down non essential parts of our bodies, like our digestive system, when stressed. The person gets away and then relaxes and his body returns to normal.

hqdefaultThere are no dangers like that in our lives, but we still have the same system operating in the background. Our body doesn’t know the difference between an animal and work stress or the stress of having to pay bills. where do people get butterflies when they are about to get up on stage?

The problem is we are in a constant state of stress every day. Stress going to work, stress in work, stress coming home and stress on the news. We are in a constant state of stress so our bodies do not normalize anymore.

If our digestive system is constantly not fully engaged then we have food that sits in our digestive system, and causes irritation, then we develop food intolerance’s. Because it is not fully turned on, we don’t absorb the right nutrients. We are in a heightened state of alertness, so we are burning more and more vitamins, at the exact time we are not absorbing them! We are running our engines with little or no oil, to keep it in peak performance. On top or all that because we are tired we tend to want more calorie rich food like chocolate sugar and carbs, but these again are not going to replace what we need. On top of that again we drink caffeine which literally turns on our stress hormones (adrenaline) to boost our energy which adds more pressure on a completely exhausted system.

Do you see where this is going? So we are running on empty, not just empty but on a deficit. We are running ourselves into the ground.

But all of that stress started in our perceptions of what was going on! It all started in our decisions about what is going on in our world. Everything chases back to our thoughts, options, and decisions. They either stress us out or not!

This is why my blog is called Health Starts In The Mind because everything in our lives starts in our mind. Our thoughts create our reality.

FibromyalgiaThis had a cascade effect in my body as I got more stressed, I thought more how to fix it, as I through more how to fix it, I got more stressed. Bit by bit my body started to shut down and the external effects of my thought patterns started to show up. I was getting more tired and sleeping more, but not getting a proper rest, then because of inactivity, my legs and back started to ache. So I started to look at what was making me tired and sore. But that was the wrong place. I had to take control of my thoughts.

HealthSo what changed? I got pissed off really pissed off I realized that I’d have to figure this out myself.  Bit by bit I worked through my food intolerance’s and worked on upping my nutrition by eating better foods. But I would only get so far, I’d improve then my stress levels would catch up with my health, and I’d start going downhill again. Then I really started to change how I perceived the world. I started to really delve into how my mind worked. I started to learn how reality worked and started to change that for the better. HealthyThe more I worked on my thoughts the more I de-stressed the more I de-stressed the more energy I had. I learnt how to focus on what I wanted not what I didn’t want. I wanted to be full of energy and enthusiasm. Reading about sickness only made me stressed, and as a result sick.

I’ve noticed over and over that people who have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia ME and depression, are all smart people with ambition. Any of the ones that heal all have a moment where they say no more! They call it rock bottom, where they decide what they are doing isn’t working, and it’s time to do something else. To start thinking differently!

Today I’m one of the healthiest people you will meet. I do get tired but that is because I do too much. but I regulate it way better now and i work with my body. I don’t stress about it i just do what is right for me and move on. Nice and easy.

Let me ask you what do you want? Do you want to be “not sick” or full of “Vitality and H



ealth”? I know what I want. So what are you going to change today?